Delivered my baby 5 weeks back and instead of feeling happy I cry randomly and feel so low and alone. I dont understand whats happening to me. Did any of you go through this, how did u cope? Im thinking of talking to my doctor.
I totally understand this, the baby blues hit me hard and I felt guilty for not feeling only joy. You are doing more than enough. Reach out, share how you feel, and ask for help, that's the bravest thing you can do.
First, what you are feeling is real and you are not a bad mom for it. I cried so much in the first month and felt so alone. Please talk to someone, your partner, mom, anyone, and dont carry it silently like I tried to.
There are some good postpartum support helplines and online groups, joining one made me feel less alone. Also tracking my mood helped me see when it got serious. When I realised it wasn't improving I booked a doctor, please do that if you feel stuck.
Sleep deprivation makes everything worse so accept all help with the baby and sleep when you can. Eat properly, get some sunlight, and let people do chores for you. And if it stays bad, a doctor visit is the right move, not weakness.
What helped me was small things, a daily walk with the baby, talking to one friend daily, and not trying to be perfect at everything. If it's not lifting, please see a doctor, mine helped me a lot and I felt much better.
Please dont wait this one out alone. If the sadness is heavy or lasting more than a couple weeks, speak to your doctor, it can be properly treated and that's nothing to be ashamed of. I wish I had asked for help sooner.
Be very gentle with yourself right now, your body and hormones are going through a storm. Talk about your feelings, dont bottle them. And lean on your family, this phase does pass, I promise you.
